Healthy Relationships= Healthy, Happy you!
In these health tips, my focus is to help create awareness around all of the different areas of life that can contribute or take away vitality, joy and health. I mostly talk about food, exercise, yoga and meditation to help support health. Something I’m focusing on more lately is creating healthy relationships for myself and my clients.
I’m going to ask you to take a moment and do a 20 second ‘check-in’ to assess how your body feels.
3 Things you can do Right Now to Change how you feel in any given situation
- Practice Long Deep Breathing. This is my absolute favorite go-to. You can do this anywhere, anytime. It helps to decrease pulse rate and blood pressure and relax your muscles.
- Practice Emotional Freedom Technique once you can take a quick break from the interaction. I love, love, love this technique and use it throughout my day anytime I’m feeling anxious or stressed about ANYTHING.
- Can you talk to this person about a particular interaction that makes you uncomfortable? There are ways to express your feelings by using ‘I’ statements such as…. ‘when you say_______, I feel _____’. This is a good way of approaching challenges so that the other person doesn’t feel attacked but you can express yourself through how you’re feeling, which no one can fault you for.
My short-ish video talking more about this (because I was having a REALLY hard time writing this content that I wanted to share with you)
My Challenge to You:
- Go through the above exercise so that you can start self-assessing….and you can do this for ANY situation, whether it be a person or an experience.
- Practice 1 of the above-mentioned techniques either while you’re in the middle of the situation or right after.
- Assess how you’re feeling about the person or situation after you’ve tried one of these techniques.
And just so you know, there are limitless tools available for you to use to help support you through tough emotional situations. These are just a few that I use and wanted to share with you.
And while I’m by no stretch of the imagination an expert at this, I’m in the beginning stages of standing up for myself and setting boundaries around situations that are no longer serving me. This is incredibly uncomfortable for me, as I know it is for most people. But, as my friend said last night, “This is a new muscle that needs to be strengthened’. The more we do this, the easier it becomes (or so I’ve heard 😉
Love and hugs, Dr. Arjan